Over the course of the past few years my ‘happiness scale’ has yo-yo’d like the economy. One minute I’m on top of the world, the next I’m cursing my luck. But, whatever happens, I’m a great believer in getting on with it and looking forward to the next high.
The birth of my children, my wedding day and finally clearing my debt were up there as the best days of my life. It’s those days we live for and accept there will always be days when dark rain clouds drench us.
The past two weeks have been some of the most unlucky in a while. On Saturday I broke my foot!
It’s comes in three’s
As many of you will have read on my blog, I was in a car crash last week. Well, on Saturday, while playing squash, I broke my foot. I’ll save the gruesome details but I broke my 5th metatarsal.
I was losing badly at a game I’m not very good at when the accident happened. I was going to play a shot which I was struggling to get to when I lost my footing and went over my ankle. In doing so I broke my foot. Unfortunate, but not the end of the world. I now get to wear a pretty ‘moon boot’ and hobble around.
I’ve now had my three’s pieces of bad luck; the car crash, internet / telephone problems and my broken foot, so I’m looking forward to winning the lottery (if I actually played it!).
How to fix bad luck?
The only way that anyone can fix bad luck is to think positively! We make our own luck, I believe, so positive action will yield positive results.
Car crash: I’m learning to be a better driver on the road. While the accident wasn’t my fault, I have driven too fast in the past and not stopped to think of the consequences. I’m positively using the negative experience to improve my own driving. I won’t speed (much) and I’ll be more cautious behind the wheel. That minor accident could have helped avoid a more serious accident for me in the future!
Telephone & Internet: We changed our telephone and internet line recently and it’s caused nothing but trouble! However, it will get fixed and it’s not the end of the world. I’m learning to appreciate things I previously took for granted.
Broken foot: I’m a constant mover. I never stop. I hate sitting down because it’s often time wasted. The broken foot means people need to do things for me, instead of the other way about. As a result I have more time to evaluate where I am, what my goals are and what I want to achieve.
These are all negative situations which have happened in the last few weeks. It’s the age old expression, “when you get lemons, make lemonade”. I’ve had a few lemons recently but I’m learning to make lemonade.
Ultimate seeing the positive side of anything is about the right mental state, keeping spirits high and believing things will get better.
In 4BC Seneca suggested that to be truly happy and appreciate what you have, you must imagine losing everything that you value. So, imagine the loss of your family, house, income, friends, children, clothes and possessions. What would that do to you? How would you survive? These are all things I’ve taken for granted in the past.
If I lost any of these things I could imagine my life being completely different today.
I welcome the negatives because the positives are just around the corner. Whether it’s a cold beer on a warm day or our next holiday, I think the crashes, the bangs and the bruises make us appreciate the good things when they arrive.